I’m going open this post by first saying, well done to all the breastfeeding mums out there. Its a tough enough job without people scrutinizing you for doing it in public.
That was a bit of a backhanded compliment, as now I’m going to say, can we just get on with life now?
I realise that its not really the mothers themselves I should aim this at, but the media, who as always, blow things out of proportion. I’m just sick of the whole Breast Buddies thing going on and debating the issue until the death.
Now, before you get your pitchforks at the ready, I breastfed. That’s right, past tense.
I did for 5 weeks with both of my babies and I’m bloody proud that I managed even that long. Especially as my baby girl has, what can only be described as, a cleft tongue. She had an operation when she was only weeks old to remove a large benign growth that had formed, splitting her tongue in two.
I stopped with both of them because I found it so upsetting when either of them couldn’t latch on properly; I would get so worked up. My son wanted it so much that it would take him an hour to feed every 2 hours; I couldn’t even go to the toilet. And as I had such a rough time with the delivery of both (read the whole story) that being sleep deprived was just prolonging my recovery.
It wasn’t an easy decision. As I have mentioned before, I actually felt a lot of guilt for giving up the breast. And I don’t feel as though I should.
I’m convinced its (as a friend of mine put it) the Breastfeeding Police that made me feel like this. Not mums who breastfeed, but anyone, professional or otherwise, who wants to ram down my throat that I really should be breastfeeding.
It is so personal, I don’t think anyone should feel bad about how you choose to feed your baby; breast or bottle.
Across all my mummy friends; the majority breastfed for some amount of time, ranging from a few days and to 8 months. Some of my friends (shock horror) decided, even before having their babies, not to breastfeed at all. I never asked them why, because I didn’t think they had to explain themselves, least of all to me.
So as much as I wanted to breastfeed, I’m going to leave it to the experts.